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Thursday, November 10, 2005

listening

i thought i'm a good listener until i read this post from CV Discussion Board.

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Why we don't hear others
If you want to listen so you really hear what others say, make sure you're not a:
Mind reader. You'll hear little or nothing as you think "What is this person really thinking or feeling?"
Rehearser. Your mental tryouts for "Here's what I'll say next" tune out the speaker.
Filterer. Some call this selective listening—hearing only what you want to hear.
Dreamer. Drifting off during a face-to-face conversation can lead to an embarrassing "What did you say?" or "Could you repeat that?"
Identifier. If you refer everything you hear to your experience, you probably didn't really hear what was said.
Comparer. When you get sidetracked assessing the messenger, you're sure to miss the message.
Derailer. Changing the subject too quickly tells others you're not interested in anything they have to say.
Sparrer. You hear what's said but quickly belittle it or discount it. That puts you in the same class as the derailer.
Placater. Agreeing with everything you hear just to be nice or to avoid conflict does not mean you're a good listener.

Source: The Writing Lab, Department of English, Purdue University Press, 1356 Heavilon Hall, West Lafayette, IN 47907.
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Indeed listening is an art!
- requires human effort to master
- needs high quality of execution
- a non-scientific branch of learning
- a skill arising from the exercise of intuitive faculties

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